Dream for yourself

Follow your dreams is basically a phrase I have personally heard/read/seen/written about a million times. And yet, It’s something that always sounds easy and wonderful on paper, reality? Most people don’t have the time, will or permission(yes, you read it right) to do so.

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How else am I expected to make a point without this picture?

Taking an example out of my life, in my class there are 250 kids aspiring to become doctors. Or atleast that’s what you think when you look at the numbers alone. You did think that no one in their right mind would voluntarily agree to undergo extreme stress and pressure to achieve something they don’t really want in the first place. About a hundred students would be busy dreaming about a career in fashion designing, engineering, dance, and many more, but they have ‘volunteered’ to try to complete a 5 year course because it’s someone else’s dream. I have heard umpteen number of ‘My dad wanted me to..My grandfather’s final wish..My aunt couldn’t so she wants someone to..’ and I can’t help feeling that these people who are forcing their dreams on some other person are just purely selfish.

Now first things first, these parents,aunts,friends all may be really amazing people in life, and my classmates can be viewed as ‘martyrs’ to sacrifice their desires in order to purse others. I however refuse to see it that way, I find them, for lack of better words, absolutely CRAZY. If you are going to live your life on someone’s terms  then you might as well replace the pronoun and call it their life.

Life is something which everyone is given a chance at some point. If you screw it up due to circumstances, fate or laziness it doesn’t give you the right to try to fix someone else’s unless they ask for it and even then you don’t get to control it. You had your chance, and you may or may not have blown it.What you do with yours, is solely up to you. It’s great to ask for an expert’s advice, but nobody really has mastered the art of living. At least no one I know.

If everyone keeps imposing their will on the other, then I’m sure at the end of the day, nobody will be following their own dreams but instead will be following each others. Unfortunately dreams don’t come with guarantees, and you may find the ‘watching the sunset’ scenario a bit far-fetched. Follow your dreams or ignore it, whatever you do is completely acceptable as long as it’s your decision. Don’t be that person who ends up playing the blame game. At the end of the day, if you are broke/rich/employed/unemployed/happy/miserable just be satisfied that at least you got a fair chance at trying to figure your life yourself, a liberty which many lack.

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5 thoughts on “Dream for yourself

  1. You make a very good point. As a college educator who advises students on their education, and ultimately, their career; I always die a little inside when I see young students doing something (medicine, business, etc.) because a parent or other authority figure wants them to. Their eyes just look a little dead. And then, I ask them what they want to do and it is always something like graphic design or music production and they light up. Unfortunately, the parent part of their brain steps in and the lights go out, their eyes become dead again, and they sign up for what their parent’s want them to take.

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    • I feel that sometimes a little selfishness wouldn’t hurt. If people gave their own lives the same amount of concern they give for others, the world would be a whole lot different. I don’t know how the ‘puppet masters’ sleep at night knowing that they are responsible for those lifeless eyes.

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      • I don’t think they even realize they are doing it. They only want “what is best” for their beloved children. Not realizing what is best for their children is for them to be happy.

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  2. Half the kids in my class don’t want to become engineers.
    My branch is mechanical engineering, and in a class of 70 students, there’s 3 girls from that branch. 2 of them don’t want to do this, and the third one keeps getting asked if her parents have forced her.
    Why is this so common? Everybody involved in stuff like this is just selfish and stupid.

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