Backbiting, bitching, talking behind one’s back – call it what you want, It’s still one of the worst things to get involved in. This fad has been creating a ruckus since kindergarten- “He told me you stole his lollipop” “What?! He gave it to me, Why would he say that?” The respected ‘he’ will be munching on some candy obliviously as this exchange continues. He’s losing good friends to ‘pretend’ friends or to use the more common term – Frenemies.
‘Frenemy’ is a portmanteau of ‘friend’ and ‘enemy’ that can refer to either an enemy pretending to be a friend or someone who is really a friend but also a rival. The word has appeared in print as early as 1953.
The scenario doesn’t really change as we get older. Just replace the sugary candy in question to some low-fat healthy crap that tastes like cardboard and there you go! Why do we promote this? We shouldn’t be listening or narrating. It’s true that we do get to hear some ‘interesting half-truths’ about what someone really thinks of us but is it really worth risking the relationship for tit-bits of information that may or may not be true.
The fault lies with both – the story teller and the avid listener. What are we expected to do when we hear outrageous things that our friend is supposed to have said according to a source who aren’t even sure you can fully trust. I don’t know what you should do, but like always I know what you shouldn’t. Out of experience. You shouldn’t get so annoyed that you cut all ties before even discussing it with the person who may/may not have said gruesome things about you. This may seem like the most obvious route of all. But believe me the tiny thing called ego will precede common sense and you won’t even bother.
Bogus or truth? You have to talk to the person. I lost a really good but extremely naïve friend to one of these pathetic tricks not long ago. Talk to the person not ABOUT.