I have been reading so many posts by wonderful people that are having a hard time because they are being unfairly judged by random strangers. I have said this before that I don’t think anyone in the world has the right to judge another person especially if you haven’t bothered to check the background story that’s screaming silently.
That being said, the part where I live in India is brutal for judging women. My class consists of 250 lost souls. Most girls chat away into the night with the boys but in college they just walk past each other as strangers. Being me, I asked a few of them why they were doing so and the response was hilarious and so very sad at the same time. They were worried what ‘others would think’ if they saw them interacting with the opposite sex. Many don’t come out after 6 for the same reason. These others they talk about are not random strangers as I thought at first, but they are the so called friends that are just waiting to pounce on gossip.
Living for others is a noble concept mastered by great people like Gandhi, Abdul Kalam etc. But that’s an entirely different thing. These personalities did what they truly wanted to do. You can’t just live to satisfy everyone else but yourself. What’s the point of living then? We can compromise little things to bring a smile upon loved ones faces but compromising your entire life? I’m not that noble and I don’t think I want to be either. When I leave this place and head upwards or downwards, I don’t want “what if”s to plague me and make my already annoyed(I’m dead, obviously I’m not going to be very happy about it) soul want to engage in the much loved blame game. I rather be satisfied knowing that I, myself am responsible, for the most part ,for whatever successes or failures I face.
You can judge me all you want, grandma across the street but if I can sleep at night that means my conscience is clear and honestly that’s all I need to really worry about.